Why You Should Befriend Your Inner Supervillain and the 8 Steps to Get Started

Charlie Mac talks about her secret to dealing with those tapes that our subconscious plays in our heads.

I’m going to make a bold statement: Your subconscious is really a supervillain.

As a former English teacher, I am a fan of analogies. I can’t really help it. To make sense of my own journey of personal mastery, I needed narratives that supported both the science and the woo.

Freud divided us into three simple parts: The Id, Ego, and Superego. Or… loosely, our Instincts, Reality and Morality. Honestly, that has never resonated with me. I always felt that there were missing nuances, all attached to personal circumstances. Our environment has a lot to do with how we use our instincts, how we perceive our reality and what we view as our morality. How much of that is conscious? Turns out, maybe 5%.

So here’s how I see it: The subconscious mind is born with us and collects all its environmental data through the senses. The problem is, it doesn’t know truth from fiction and it constructs (and reminds us of) our feelings. And… because its primary function is to keep us safe, this can get a little sticky.

As far as I am concerned, "she" is basically a supervillain. She has so many shadow memories and experiences from various parts of my life, she can’t help but be a little… dark. 

The concept of my subconscious being a supervillain does a couple of things for me right off the bat: First, it reminds me that all of these narratives running on autopilot are probably not accurate and I don’t have to own them. Second, it helps me see that the tapes being played in my head are intended to keep me safe. This opens the door for some self-empathy.

I also like the idea that I can point over at her and say, “That’s not me! It’s her!”

I can even give her a name. And, I can carry the analogy as far as I need to. My inner-child becomes Professor Shame, child genius. The inner-petulant teenager becomes Captain Drama. My supervillain has an entire League of Villains at her disposal, and boy, do they have tapes to play.

What is most powerful about this playful banter I have created with my subconscious is exactly that. It is playful. Back when I was trying to get my mind focused on newer, more positive beliefs I would end up in this awful cycle of catching the negative thought and then berating myself for having it in the first place! Clearly, this was self-defeating.

Now, I call out each villainous thought by pointing to a member of the league or directly at her boss, my inner-supervillain. And then I throw a bunch of love at the sassy lady villain while taking conscious control. Here's how:

  1. Recognize the lie that is the negative. When she whispers in your ear, do a quick fact-check. 
  2. Make an appointment by saying to her, “Listen, I hear you. But let’s talk about that on Sunday (or some other day of your choosing). 
  3. Notice the number of times you need to make that appointment before Sunday comes. It will blow your mind.
  4. Focus on the noticing, being mindful to be an observer here. Try not to judge what you notice. Use the phrase, "Hmm, that's interesting." 
  5.  Be kind as you make the appointment. “I don’t agree with you, but I do hear you. Let’s talk about that on Sunday.”
  6. Follow through with your appointment. Choose a time and honor it. 
  7. Let your supervillain speak through writing for 30 seconds. Set a timer and journal it out. Let her express all the fears, concerns, judgments and then stop.
  8. Listen with empathy, but stay conscious and remain in charge. Let your supervillain know that you are grateful for the sharing, but that moving forward, you are in charge and will filter the fears, concerns and judgments. Then finish up with a mental hug and expression of gratitude.

Just to be clear, these eight steps aren’t a one-time thing you do and whammo, you’ve befriended your supervillain. I’m sorry, but it is not that easy. At least it wasn’t for me. Rather, it is a process you can utilize to help catch the layers of programming, get conscious and regain control of some of your most villainous narratives.

I still make these appointments with my supervillain and now, it’s been several years. Instead of 15-20 appointments made per day (yep, that’s the truth) it is more like 1-3 appointments per month. Sometimes, I have a growth period and the numbers change. During these times you’ll find me doing more journaling, more meditating and surrounding myself with more support structures.

Give these steps a try, talk with your supervillain and let me know how it goes.

If this has connected with you in any way, or if you have any questions you want me to address in another article, feel free to DM me on Instagram and let me know.

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Charlie is an intuitive high performance coach who helps driven women build their inner castles and create their outer empires through her Release, Redefine and Reclaim Process. After a year with Charlie, clients learn to trust themselves again and unearth the confidence to play at the level equal to their most outrageous goals.